My father invited the whole family to Thanksgiving dinner, but my mother left me in the kitchen serving everyone. Two hours later, a man in a black suit walked in…

It was the kind of order that had followed me my entire life.

“Put on the apron, Emily. The family didn’t come here to watch you sitting at the table like a guest.”

That was what my mother, Margaret, told me as she adjusted the silverware on the main dining table, as if each fork mattered more than my dignity.