My husband spent weeks calling Hawaii our “family vacation,” so I rearranged work, packed, and even helped pay. But on departure morning, Mark stopped me at the door. “You’re not going.” I stared at him. “What are you talking about?” He replied, “There isn’t a ticket for you. This trip is for my family.” His mother smirked behind him. I didn’t argue. I locked the door, made two phone calls, and booked a month in Europe. Three days later, everyone in Hawaii was desperately calling me.

Nobody called those expenses “family” anymore. Once lawyers and investigators started attaching numbers to everything, the language changed quickly.