I Took My Son to Visit My Commander Husband—The Guard Said, “His Girlfriend Is Inside. No Visitors.”

Part 1

The first thing I heard when I arrived at the gate was my eight-year-old son excitedly pointing toward the base. The second was the guard saying, “His girlfriend is inside the unit. No visitors!” I dropped the keys into my handbag.

At 8:17 on a gray Thursday morning in San Diego, Evelyn Whitaker stood outside the west gate of Naval Support Unit Coronado with one hand gripping her eight-year-old son’s shoulder and the other holding a paper bag of still-warm cinnamon rolls. Dylan had insisted they surprise his father. “Dad said commanders like coffee,” he had said solemnly in the car, balancing the thermos on his knees. Evelyn had smiled then. She was not smiling now.